Self-Reflection

I’m Not Okay, and that’s FINE.

TNTH has been going through this cycle where it’s back up and running and then the next day, I run away from the blog. I’m genuinely sorry for that.

I planned out this entire summer to strictly focus and build on TNTH so that by the time this time of year came around, there were more readers and viewers and a bigger community on TNTH then it was a couple of months ago.

Life happens and sometimes, you’re not okay. I’m not okay as I type this, and that is completely fine.

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Self-Reflection

Metanoia: Why I’ve Been Gone.

Hey, guys. After a long hiatus, welcome back to TNTH.

I’ve spent these last few weeks trying to write this post and having it reflect on the process I’ve been going through as I’ve been going through it, and every time I’ve tried explaining myself, it still doesn’t fully explain why. So excuse me if this sounds confusing, or cheesy, or down-right crazy. I promised myself that TNTH is a safe place of honesty and self-expression, so here I am doing just that.

I left for many reasons. I’ve written the list over and over again and I’ve finally come to terms with those reasons. Those reasons, or causes perhaps, made me live a lie for the last 5 months, I’ve been indulging in this life that was not my own, and eventually, I started to break down. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally.

Long story short, the pressure builds up inside of you and everything that you held back for months on end began to pour out. My honest, raw, and purest-self showed and when I look back at it, I remember how vulnerable I truly was. How desperate I wanted everything to end; the self-hate thoughts that circled through my head would not leave me alone. I realized things needed to desperately change before I was back to where I was years ago when the pain caused me to then become suicidal. I needed to find myself again.

During my time away from the world, I’ve listened to a lot of music. Specifically, I listened to Camila Cabello’s “I Have Questions” on repeat. It was the type of song that took you to a place you never knew existed in you. Every time that song plays on my phone, I feel like I fall down this trap door of every issue, problem, and insecurity of mine and I’m forced to come in contact with them all. Long story short, the song comes from her forthcoming debut album, The Hurting. The Healing. The Loving. She shares that the album is a “journey from darkness to light; [how she lost herself and then found herself again through three stages: the hurting, the healing, and the loving.]”

I’ve taken these three stages of self-discovery and applied it to my own life. It’s when I realized that I have the power to fix what I want to fix, find what I want to find, change what I want to change, and to simply heal the hurt so that I can love again.

This is who I was, who I am, and what I’m working to become.

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Self-Reflection

Happy 1st-Month of TNTH!

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Hey guys, sorry for no #TBT related post today, I just wanted to take the time out on this special milestone to personally thank you all who have been supportive of me and this blog since it launched one month ago.

In celebration of the 1-month milestone, here are some of my favorite posts I published since the launch of TNTH:

Because of you guys, I’ve been able to showcase my writing and show you guys just how passionate I am of doing so. I’ve had many of you write to me personally, expressing your interest in certain posts (definitely the #TBT ones) and letting me know just how much my writing helps them. It truly means the absolute world to me to know that there are actual people viewing my content and reading what I have to say.

Unfortunately on my side of things, this month of TNTH has been quite an eye-opener for me.

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Self-Reflection

22 Things that happened/I’ve learned while being 22.

 

Things that happened:

  1. I spent my birthday with my best friend for the 5th year in a row.
  2. I auditioned for my college’s talent show for the hell of it and got further than I expected to go.
  3. Made awesome friendships and made a lot of memories in my Acting II class.
  4. Went to see amazing plays in the city and student productions in my college.
  5. Spent a night out with some college friends and laughed our asses off.
  6. I graduated college with English Honors & automatically admitted into my college’s Masters program.
  7. I started grad school.
  8. I finally told the person I love that I actually loved him.
  9. I went to Pennsylvania the first time in 3 years.
  10. I completed my first MA Thesis and got an A on it.
  11. I finally got a midnight kiss on New Year’s Eve.

Things I’ve learned:

  1. Sometimes, letting things happen is better than planning. Let life teach you something with its spontaneously.
  2. Don’t be afraid of doing something that you wanna do. Always go for it.
  3. Always be honest with yourself, and with the people around you.
  4. Explore new places and things that you wouldn’t normally go out for.
  5. Make memories with people you want to make memories with.
  6. With hard work and dedication, you can achieve almost anything you set your mind and body to.
  7. Never give up.
  8. Allow yourself to fall in love.
  9. Remember where you came from.
  10. When you have something important to say, use your voice.
  11. Anything can be crossed off your bucket list.

-Liz (:

 

Self-Reflection

Meet the Writer!

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BTW, I’m the one with the basic ass Snapchat dog filter on the *far* right.

I figured I’d do one of these posts just to have it up here for those who may not know me, or people who used to know me well and don’t know the person that I am now. So, here are some interesting and exciting things about me!

Here is the “10 things you may or may not know about me but you probably do if you know me because hello you know me” list! #TrueBuzzfeedStyle.

  1. I am a Capricorn, and although I don’t necessarily believe in zodiac signs and astrology, I do believe that the Capricorn traits do fit me to the exact.
  2. Besides writing, some things that I like to do in my spare time is watch YouTube videos (like a dweeb) and make silly Snapchat stories. It’s pretty pathetic, yeah, but sometimes you have to stop what you’re doing and have a good time with things that make you happy. #CheesyPost.
  3. I’ve been in love three times in my life already. The first time was my first love, the second time was a forbidden love, and the third time I fell in love was with my first love all over again.
  4. I guess I can put the two biggest insecurities of mine in one because in some extent they correlate. I have a speech impediment and because of that, my anxiety in social settings is usually through the roof. I am beginning to cope with it better now that I’m older and I’m pretty much forced to talk in front of large audiences in grad school.
  5. In an odd way, I am a very spiritual person. When I say this, people think I’m this crazy religious freak and I’m far from being religious (I sadly don’t know much about religion). When I say spiritual, I mean that I believe that energies exist (and no, not demons or ghosts, sheesh). I believe that the energy that you put out into the world, you will get that same energy back, so I try my best to put out positive energy no matter how I feel because I always want positive energy coming my way. Yeah.
  6. I am an advocate for staying true to yourself. I try to tell everyone who I care about that no matter what you may be going through, you should always stay true to yourself because there’s nobody else like you out there. Again, #CheesyPost.
  7. I’m a very bubbly person. Every time my S/O talks about me in front of one of his friends, he’s always telling them that I am bubbly 95% of the time. It’s an accurate number.
  8. I’m addicted to hair. I can’t tell you the last time I had virgin, natural hair because it’s been forever since it was. I always like to change up my look because I feel like if your style changes, your hair does too.
  9. I’m extremely optimistic. I always try to see the good side of things even when I know there isn’t, I’ve honestly been happier ever since I’ve started to see the good side of things (I know, I’ve said that twice in one sentence, my bad). I believe it’s made me stronger, happier, and mentally healthier. Your mentality is your reality, as Claudia Sulewski once said in a YouTube video about happiness.
  10. I know when to let go of certain things. In the past, I would call myself a people hoarder because even if a person treated me poorly, I would keep them in my life whether it was to give them another chance or because I’ve had history with them. Over the years, I’ve learned that people will just take up space in your life that you could be using to better yourself and find new people who will understand and grow with you. No matter how long or how short I’ve known you, it all depends on how good we are treating each other. “Stick with your entree and forget about the sides”, as Obie would say.

I realize these aren’t that exciting or interesting as I wanted them to be, but whatever. You’ll get to know me more further down the road through this experience!

-Liz (: