Hey, guys – welcome back to TNTH.
So, we’re literally four months away from a new year. That’s insane. It felt like it was just yesterday the summer started. Sheesh, it feels like it was just yesterday that September started, and look where we are now.
We can say that about time in general: it seems like the older we get, the faster time goes. You have people in their 20’s feeling their biological clocks ticking, you have people feeling elder every time a birthday comes around, and the years seem to come and go faster than ever.
What’s really hard to detect, though, is change over these years. We see it in ourselves and the people around us, but we never see just how much changes in society and modern culture until we reflect back on “the simpler times”.
Or, what I like to call it: the ignorance times… Lemme explain.
If you don’t follow the YouTube beauty community, then you wouldn’t have heard about the absolute mess a couple of beauty gurus left over the summer. With drama always happening within that community, four former friends (and fellow YouTube beauty gurus) of Jeffree Star took a picture together and made a comment alluding to them being better off without him. When fans of Jeffree Star began to defend him, one of the four people commented on how people could “stan a racist”. It wasn’t until then when the detectives of Twitter began to dig up the past of these four people, one in which wrote such horrible and racist things, it cost her all of her brand deals and practically her source of income. Over tweets she wrote over 6 years ago.
In 2018, we live in such a “woke” society. We live during a time where people have strong opinions and platforms to share them, whether or not they are the majority, and we also live during a time where ableism, slut-shaming, fat-shaming, homophobia, sexism, and racism are topics that you absolutely cannot have an opposing opinion about. In a way, we live during a time where we have to be absolutely careful with the words that we say in case we offend or judge anyone’s character in society. This type of society (to me) I believe began after the horrendous crime of Trayvon Martin; the 17-year-old boy who was shot and killed by an off-duty officer because “he looked like a threat”. Since then, conversations about social justice in any form are happening.
The Trayvon Martin verdict came in during the summer of 2013, and when justice was not served to its fullest for Trayvon and his family, these conversations and sensitive topics regarding social justice became such a major thing in society. Before this case, the world was a different world. All of these celebrities who get “exposed” for racist comments mostly date back before that time in life. We’re talking about the 2000’s decade; the one where being gay was a bad thing and gay comments were the majority of people’s opinions, where people used terms like “hoodrat” and “ghetto” to describe things within the Black American community, again not batting an eyelash about it, and many other things we couldn’t see as being wrong. It was a time where many of us had these thoughts about society and didn’t realize just how harmful they truly were to those people within these demographics; I mean, stereotypes of different nationalities were considered jokes for god’s sake.
As much as most of us grew out of that mentality and fight for what is right in society, you can’t sit here and forget that most of us had the views and opinions that we are constantly fighting against. We all had said disrespectful things in our lives, we all had put the “uh” instead of an “a” at the end of the N word because it “changed the meaning of the word”. We all called out someone that regarded their skin color, looks, sexual orientation, we all said it all at one point in our lives.
I said some horrible things in my past, during times where nobody questioned it or when most people spoke like that too. I had views on homosexuality that don’t reflect my views on it now. I had my own misconceptions of beauty and who/what was considered beautiful during a time where most people thought like that as well. Now, being in 2018 and reflecting back on those things said over a decade ago when I was a pre-teen/teenager, I know that it was wrong.
I apologize for everything that I said in my past that came off as racist, sexist, homophobic, ableist, and everything that society is trying to fight for in today’s society. I don’t reflect the person I was 10 years ago, even 6 six years ago when I was a senior in high-school still thinking and saying things that were not my place to say. I’ve matured, I learned, and I’ve acknowledged that was my past, and that I was ignorant in my past. As a society, it’s not about digging up “receipts” of your problematic past because it’s more than likely everyone has something problematic they have done or said in their past.
Acknowledge that this is now the era in a society that we fight those problematic views and standpoints and make them as accepting as society’s traditional “norms”. Know that you were part of a problem that we are constantly trying to destroy because it simply isn’t right. No, we haven’t become “insensitive”, we’ve become aware of what’s right and what’s wrong.
In today’s society, we just want acceptance and equality for all different types of people in this world.