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Without a doubt in the world, many of us strive to have confidence. It’s always branded as being sexy to be confident, and many of us tell ourselves that we are going to be more confident in ourselves. Ultimately, it seems like we are always trying to discover that confidence in ourselves.
This time around, I am holding myself accountable for speaking my confidence to existence.
Confidence is one of those things that have a fine line between it. Being confident and being cocky is pretty much one in the same to most people, but like my vocal teacher once told my choir one day in class: the loudest one in the room is usually the weakest one. And it’s true; confidence speaks for itself. When people have to prove their confidence to people, it’s most likely an indicator that they don’t have it. Confidence is one of those things that you don’t have to show people; it shows in the way you walk, the company you keep around, the way you resolve problems, and a whole spectrum of things. People will know when a person has confidence, and it’s so weird how we can detect that. Like, we can look at a person and say “wow, they have confidence” but don’t know where to find our own. It’s crazy.
And that’s where people go wrong. People think that confidence comes from self-image and loving ourselves when that’s just one tiny aspect of self-confidence. Confidence stems from a variety of places like intelligence, talent, ability, social interactions, and whatever else you could be confident in. Confidence, in a nutshell, is a constant reminder to yourself that you are what you are and that you accept who you are.
Of course, it’s one thing to say that you want to be a more confident person, but it’s a completely different ballgame to actually become confident. Many of us didn’t know how to get from those two stages. I say that you say it and do it simultaneously. I say speak it into existence.
When speaking something to existence, you are putting it out to the outside world. When you tell yourself something internally, it’s a thought that circles around a million other inner thoughts that are just randomly scrolling through your mind. When you speak it out loud, you get a better sense of its true meaning. It’s the reason why it feels good to express your feelings and thoughts to other people; you put those inner thoughts in the outside world and now it exists as a coherent thought.
In the past week, I began telling myself, “I have a lot to celebrate for, and every day should mirror that celebration”. Because it’s true: I just turned 24 and I’m getting my Masters later this year. Why not celebrate for making it this far in my life? Why not celebrate the fact that I didn’t even see myself living to 24, yet here I am doing just that? Why not celebrate the fact that grad school was once way out of my league and now I’m 85% finished with it? I realized that there is so much I can celebrate about myself that I never even thought about because I had low self-esteem and this belief that I wasn’t doing enough. It was always easy to say that I was doing enough for me, but I never spoke it into existence. Now, I’m celebrating what I am doing and where I’m going. Simply just celebrating yourself can help boost confidence, but make sure you are speaking it into existence. On my birthday, I told myself — loud and clear — the following sentence: “I am celebrating 24 years of living after believing I was going to kill myself that one night when I was 18 years old.”
It’s real, you guys.
Seriously, speaking your confidence into existence will help you realize that you have a lot going on for you and that by simply existing, you are making someone else’s day. It’s hard, trust me I know. It’s hard to believe what you’re telling yourself, but remember that the only person that you need to impress is you and if you are telling yourself that you are going to be more confident and don’t follow through, you are not impressing yourself.
Do it for you first. Speak it to your own existence, then let the whole world see it for themselves.